|Windham & Leibovich PC
Heidi Leibovich, LCSW
Scott Windham, LCSW
1016 Greentree Rd Ste#102
Pittsburgh, PA 15220
|The Things No One Wants to Hear When They Are Depressed (and how to
avoid saying them)
Clinical depression effects almost 7 percent of the adult population within any given year in the U.S. and yet
we can't even seem to talk about it openly in public when it strikes us or those that we love. It should then,
come as no surprise that most of us seem completely befuddled when it comes to talking to someone
suffering from it. Too often the depressed person is met with basic platitudes ("we all feel blue sometimes")
has their depression blamed on them ("you're depressed because you think so negatively") or invalidated
completely ("what do you have to be depressed about"?)
It's most often not the intent of those saying these things to push the depressed person further into their
depression, but they can, at times do just that. If you have never experienced clinical depression for yourself I
am very happy for you, believe me, it's not fun. Far from being just "having a blue day" or "feeling a little down"
depression is a full body illness that often effects not only one's mood, but one's thoughts, one's pain level, the
speed at which one can think and move, libido, motivation, sleep cycles, appetite, sense of self worth and even
will to live. When you understand that you can start to understand why saying "I've had bad days too" or "just
think happy thoughts" to someone experiencing those kind of symptoms might not go over so well.
So what DO people with depression need to hear from their friends, families, and loved ones?
Lastly, don't forget that you matter too. Being with a friend or loved one who is suffering with depression
can be very taxing. Take breaks when you need to. Recruit others in the depressed person's life to be positive
supports. Reach out for help yourself if you feel that it is getting to be too much.
**Your primary care physician, your medical insurance company, and even the Internet can be powerful tools
for locating help with depression. If you or someone that you love is struggling with depression in the greater
Pittsburgh area feel free to contact us at (412) 937-0411 to set up a consultation.